Thursday, August 18, 2011

Three Major Myths on Homosexuality

This is a primer to our SSA Conference that will be held this September 10, 2011, entitled 'It's Complicated - A Conference on Understanding Sex, Gender, Transexuality & Homosexuality. For more information, please refer to my post entitled It's Complicated or visit

The "politically correct" would have you accept three major myths on homosexuality:

Myth #1: Homosexuality is normal and biologically determined.

The Truth: There is no scientific research indicating a biological or genetic cause for homosexuality. Biological factors may play a role in the predisposition to homosexuality. However, this is true of many other psychological conditions. Research suggests that social and psychosocial factors are strongly influential. Examples include problems in early family relationships, sexual seduction, and sense of inadequacy with same-sex peers, with resulting disturbance in gender identity. Society can also influence a sexually questioning youth when it encourages gay self-labeling.

Myth #2: Homosexuals cannot change, and if they try, they will suffer great emotional distress and become suicidal. Therefore, treatment to change homosexuality must be stopped.

The Truth: Psychotherapists around the world who treat homosexuals report that significant numbers of their clients have experienced substantial healing. Change has come through psychological therapy, spirituality, and ex-gay support groups. Whether leading married or committed celibate lives, many report that their homosexual feelings have diminished greatly, and do not trouble them as much as they had in the past. The keys to change are desire, persistence, and a willingness to investigate the conscious and unconscious conflicts from which the condition originated. Change comes slowly, usually over several years. Clients learn how to meet their needs for same-sex nurturance and affirmation without eroticizing the relationship. As they grow into their heterosexual potential, men and women typically experience a fuller and more expansive sense of themselves as male or female. If some homosexuals do not wish to change, that is their choice, yet it is profoundly sad that gay rights activists struggle against the right-to-treatment for other homosexuals who yearn for freedom from their attractions.

Myth #3: We must teach our children that homosexuality is as normal and healthy as heterosexuality. Teenagers should be encouraged to celebrate their same-sex attractions.

The Truth: Scientific research supports age-old cultural norms that homosexuality is not a healthy, natural alternative to heterosexuality. Research shows that gay teens are especially vulnerable to substance abuse and early high-risk sexual behavior. It does far more harm than good to tell a teenager that his attractions toward members of the same sex are normal and desirable. Teens in this position need understanding and counseling, not push in the direction of a potentially deadly lifestyle. A 1992 study in Pediatrics found that 25.9% of 12-year-olds are uncertain if they are gay or straight. The teen years are critical to the question of self-labeling, so the facts must be presented in our schools in a fair and balanced manner.


  1. Courage is supposed to be a safe haven for people who are attracted to the same sex, who want to have a closer relationship with God and their loved ones. In no way does it demean, belittle, or try to change one who is homosexual. To quote directly from EnCourage, an organization directly affiliated to Courage, one that seeks help and guidance in understanding and supporting their loved ones who experienced same­sex attractions, "EnCourage does not embrace the necessity of changing a loved one’s sexual attraction to seek support from our ministry." And the "myths" that you have posted directly contradicts the main purpose of Courage and EnCourage. I am greatly disappointed and hurt, as this organization was recommended by a relative who was part of a chapter in the US. This is not the vision and mission of the organization, and this post clearly shows that.

  2. @Anonymous

    Thank you for your concern. We in Courage are not in the business of changing one's sexual orientation but in providing spiritual support through the goals and vision/mission of Courage. However, for those who seek the help of psychotherapists to help deal with their issues, they are free to do so.

    Please be at peace and don't be disappointed and hurt by a single blog post like this. Maybe you are seeing things out of context.

    God bless you in your journey.

    P.S.: Please seek the nearest Courage chapter in your country.