The Life Coach Is Here!

You've probably seen him on TV. He is the resident psychologist of the hit reality show Pinoy Big Brother. In this exclusive Courage article, "Doc Randy" shares his experience in handling cases pertaining to SSA and his approach in dealing with their issues.

Who is Doc Randy?

Randy Misael Sebastian Dellosa, M.D., Psy.D. is a Filipino life coach, counselor, psychotherapist, clinical psychologist, wellness physician, and psychiatrist all rolled into one with over 25 years of experience in counseling and psychotherapy. He helps people heal from their physical, emotional, mental, relational, and spiritual problems and assists them in attaining their fullest human potential and spiritual growth. He is popularly known as the "celebrity shrink" and is sought-after as a consultant for reality TV shows and resource person for talk shows.

To find out more about Doc Randy, visit his website at www.randydellosa.com.


Hi _______!

Thanks for your email. I am always impressed by people like you who pursue healing, wholeness, and growth in their personal lives. It is also inspiring for me to know that you don't only help yourself, but have a blog that aims to encourage and support others as well. I hope that you keep up your good work!

In my practice as a psychotherapist, I receive clients with all types of problems. I estimate that around 10-15% of those who consult me (both male and female, young and old) do so due to homosexual issues. Some want to quit their homosexuality, others don’t, but nevertheless, the stories they tell me are commonly infused with feelings of frustration, alienation, anger, despair, angst, and helplessness.

More than a decade ago, because I had already been receiving a number of clients with SSA issues, I decided to equip myself by studying various therapeutic approaches aimed at helping people extinguish, diminish, or at least manage their homosexual struggles. I remember studying material by Leanne Payne, Michael Saia, Frank Worthen, and even Joseph Nicolosi. As part of my psychotherapeutic training and exposure, I was even able to visit a Christian organization in Reichelsheim, Germany- the Reichenberg Fellowship- which published materials on Biblical Counseling for Homosexuals.

Regarding Nicolosi's Reparative Therapy, I believe that it can certainly be a helpful approach for people with SSA issues. As much as I remember though, Nicolosi focuses on the failure of the father-son relationship and ambivalence in the mother-son relationship. These themes however, may be true for some homosexuals but not for all. Reparative Therapy therefore
is applicable only to the subgroup of homosexuals for which those themes apply.

These days, after many years of counseling people, I like to keep therapy simple yet meaningful, holistic, insightful, and practical. In my sessions, I work with themes that are relevant to most people, whether they have SSA issues or not. The themes include- healing from one’s childhood wounds; loving one’s self; befriending one’s ‘shadow’ nature; practicing forgiveness and gratitude; creating authentic and harmonious relationships; choosing to be joyful; living in the here and now; nurturing one’s personal spirituality; and finding purpose and meaning in life.

By focusing on positive themes, hope and inspiration grows. Focusing on positive themes also extinguishes the homosexual neurosis, characterized by an obsession with or constant rumination over homosexual struggles, gender identity, and sensuality. I discovered that even if I do not directly work on SSA issues, these themes naturally and spontaneously
start people on a journey of self-discovery, personal growth, emotional healing, and spiritual maturity. Of course, depending on the situation or on my client’s wishes, I can also choose to focus directly on SSA issues or other matters deemed important by the client.

Well, _______, this is all for now. I don’t always have the luxury of time to write lengthy pieces. Thanks for reading what I have to share and I wish you well on your journey of becoming the person God wants you to be.

God bless you, your family, and your ministry,

Randy


Thank you, Doc Randy, for finding time to write this article for Courage and for giving us a refreshing insight into your holistic approach in treating people with SSA. God bless you too in your sincere and wholehearted dedication to your work.